Sex can become a ‘not so happening’ task sometimes. It needs to give you that flutter in the stomach and make you feel at peace at the same time. However, a lot of us feel averted to any of the ‘birds and the bees talk’ due to many factors. A low work-life balance and stress are some of the inhibitions in our sex life.
The good news is that you can improve your sexual health and overall well-being. But it takes time, effort, and a willingness to make changes in order to get there.
Health Shots spoke to Devina Kaur, a motivational speaker, radio host, and producer, about simple ways to do better in your sex life.
“Intimacy is not something you can just achieve overnight or by following some quick fix. You have to be willing to put in the work and commit yourself to see some changes in your mundane sex life,” says Kaur.
Having a good sex life is very important. While it may seem like an easy task to simply follow the instructions and get it done with. But this will only lead to more problems down the road between you and your partner. If you want to improve your sex life, you need to take things slowly but steadily over time.
Here are the top 5 tips to help you improve your sex life:
Sex is a very intimate act that involves physical contact. It is a way of expressing our feelings through intimacy. So, these things need to be kept in mind to improve your sex life.
This might sound obvious, but communication is key when it comes to having a healthy sexual relationship with your partner. Communication is the foundation of any successful relationship. When you communicate openly and honestly with each other, you both feel comfortable enough to share what you really think and feel. This allows you to express your desires and needs without fear of judgment from your partner. It is vital to talk about your expectations before you engage in any sex act. Talk about what you like and dislike. Discuss your fantasies and fetishes. If you don’t discuss these things beforehand, you may not know how to give pleasure to your partner.
If you accept who you are as a person and learn to love yourself, you will naturally attract people into your life who are compatible with you. Acceptance means accepting yourself for all of your flaws, strengths, and weaknesses. Learning to accept yourself is the first step towards becoming happy. Once you are happier, you will naturally attract positive energy into your life.
“Acceptance also means creating a safe space for your partner to be who they are and what their sexual needs may be. It open the channel for a better communication and leads to an improvement in sex life,” says Kaur, who is also the author of the self-help book called “Too Fat Too Loud Too Ambitious”.
3. Be open-minded
Explore your own body and sexuality alone or with your partner, as this will surely teach you about your pleasure points and desires. Masturbate more, masturbate together. If you want to be more creative in bed, you might want to consider exploring new ideas. Try different positions, toys, and even role play. Don’t limit yourself to anything. Experiment with different things until you find something that works best for you and your partner.
4. Take time out to laugh
Laughter has been proven to boost testosterone levels and increase blood flow. So, if you want to improve your sexual performance, laughter is a great way to go. Laughter also helps release endorphins which makes you happy and relaxed. leads to increased energy and improved mood. It is important to take a break from sex and just share some laughs together. The reason behind this is that your mind and body need rest. When you are tired, your mind becomes distracted and you might lose focus. Taking breaks will allow you to recharge and come back to each other stronger than ever.
5. Over indulgence
Over indulgence in habits such as smoking, drinking alcohol, eating unhealthy foods, can affect your sex life. This is because they can cause fatigue, low libido, and premature ejaculation. Be mindful of anything that stops you reach sexual connection and intimacy with your partner. Instead of over indulgence opt for healthy alternatives.
How to get involved in sex frequently?
Having a regular schedule for your sex life will ensure that you stay focused and motivated. You can use a calendar to keep track of your sexual activities. You can set aside specific times during the week to connect sexually with your partner. Make sure you include some fun in your routine too. You can watch a movie together, play games, or eat dinner together.
You will be surprised to know that there are so many non-sexual ways to improve your sex life and overall well-being. However, it takes commitment and dedication to achieve them. Improving your sex life doesn’t mean that you have to change everything about yourself. When you consciously make small changes in your daily routine, you will notice a big difference.